Exploring Washington D.C.


I got to D.C. after my stay in NJ & NYC, so it was definitely a calmer end to the trip. The city is clean, organised and has some great spots & cafes. Here’s what I got up to while I was there…

Breakfast at the Jefferson

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National Mall: Memorials 

The day was nice and sunny & perfect for a walk along the National Mall, where all the memorials are located at a close distance, including George Washington Memorial, Lincoln Memorial, Martin Luther King Memorial, Jefferson Memorial, World War II Memorial… and I am sure I might have missed out a few? Its a chance to learn a little bit about the American history, although I wish there were more information given out about the events and the purpose of the memorials at spot.

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Museums & Art Galleries: Holocaust Museum, Air & Space Museum, National Gallery of Art

While there’s many others in close proximity, I covered the most recommended ones in my short stay in D.C. FYI, Air & Space Museum has actually got a piece of the moon, if that tickles your interest?

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Georgetown, Waterfront Park 

Georgetown is probably my favourite place in D.C., especially on a nice sunny day. There’s cute little cafes, restaurants and confectioneries you can grab a bite at and relax. The Waterfront is quite lovely as well.

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National Harbour

Even though this is a little off the city, its definitely worth a day trip.

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Exploring New York City


Having spent five years in London and absolutely loving the ‘fast life’, I thought New York would be love at first sight, but that’s not really how my few days in NYC went. The architecture and entertainment is so overwhelming, that by the end of my two days in NYC, I had forgotten the difference between Rockerfeller, BoA Offices, Empire State, Chrysler and the World Trade Center. May be if I observed them in isolation things would be different, but regretfully in my brief trip I barely got a chance to do that. I think I could really fall in love with this city, but it certainly wasn’t love at first sight. Well, while I was there I tried to not only see the city but experience it as much as I could, and here’s what I got up to:

Times Square

While you walk from 34th to 42th Times Sq. its worth grabbing a coffee & sitting by the stairs or checking out some of the stores with extravagant architectures, like the rest of the city.

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Brooklyn Bridge Park at Brooklyn Heights

Its probably the best way of experiencing the NYC Skyline and taking a break from the hustle bustle.

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Statue of Liberty, Liberty Island

Be sure to book well in advance if you want to go to the Pedestal or Crown of the Statue of Liberty, as I could only get the ferry ticket to the island a day before, even though it was a working day.

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High Line

This is a park/ walkway created out of an old railway line. The music, mural, street art and the sun set completed my otherwise hectic day exploring the city.

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Grand Central Station 

Grand Central was probably at the end of my list of things to see, but I was truly surprised with what I saw. There’s this ‘grand’ vibe about this place. If you’re around, its totally worth dropping by.

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Theater at the Broadway, Matilda – The Musical

This was probably the best lighting and staging I had ever seen in a show. I guess the fuss is not for nothing?

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A little off the city… 

If you’re able to drive a little off the city, you must head out to the shore. While I only visited the Jersey Shore, I have also heard great things about the Fire Island.

Ashbury Park, Jersey Shore

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Six Flags, Freight Fest 

Turns out, Halloween is quite big in America, so my timing was perfect to experience the festivities and the horrors.

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Why is Generation Y Unhappy?


Source: Bright Side

Lucy is part of Generation Y, the generation born between the late 1970s and the mid 1990s. She’s also part of a yuppie culture that makes up a large portion of Gen Y.

I have a term for yuppies in the Gen Y age group—I call them Gen Y Protagonists & Special Yuppies, or GYPSYs. A GYPSY is a unique brand of yuppie, one who thinks they are the main character of a very special story.

So Lucy’s enjoying her GYPSY life, and she’s very pleased to be Lucy. Only issue is this one thing:

Lucy’s kind of unhappy.

To get to the bottom of why, we need to define what makes someone happy or unhappy in the first place. It comes down to a simple formula:

It’s pretty straightforward—when the reality of someone’s life is better than they had expected, they’re happy. When reality turns out to be worse than the expectations, they’re unhappy.

To provide some context, let’s start by bringing Lucy’s parents into the discussion:

Lucy’s parents were born in the 50s—they’re Baby Boomers. They were raised by Lucy’s grandparents, members of the G.I. Generation, or “the Greatest Generation,” who grew up during the Great Depression and fought in World War II, and were most definitely not GYPSYs.

Lucy’s Depression Era grandparents were obsessed with economic security and raised her parents to build practical, secure careers. They wanted her parents’ careers to have greener grass than their own, and Lucy’s parents were brought up to envision a prosperous and stable career for themselves. Something like this:

They were taught that there was nothing stopping them from getting to that lush, green lawn of a career, but that they’d need to put in years of hard work to make it happen.

After graduating from being insufferable hippies, Lucy’s parents embarked on their careers. As the 70s, 80s, and 90s rolled along, the world entered a time of unprecedented economic prosperity. Lucy’s parents did even better than they expected to. This left them feeling gratified and optimistic.

With a smoother, more positive life experience than that of their own parents, Lucy’s parents raised Lucy with a sense of optimism and unbounded possibility. And they weren’t alone. Baby Boomers all around the country and world told their Gen Y kids that they could be whatever they wanted to be, instilling the special protagonist identity deep within their psyches.

This left GYPSYs feeling tremendously hopeful about their careers, to the point where their parents’ goals of a green lawn of secure prosperity didn’t really do it for them. A GYPSY-worthy lawn has flowers.

This leads to our first fact about GYPSYs:

GYPSYs Are Wildly Ambitious

The GYPSY needs a lot more from a career than a nice green lawn of prosperity and security. The fact is, a green lawn isn’t quite exceptional or unique enough for a GYPSY. Where the Baby Boomers wanted to live The American Dream, GYPSYs want to live Their Own Personal Dream.

Cal Newport points out that “follow your passion“ is a catchphrase that has only gotten going in the last 20 years, according to Google’s Ngram viewer, a tool that shows how prominently a given phrase appears in English print over any period of time. The same Ngram viewer shows that the phrase ”a secure career“ has gone out of style, just as the phrase “a fulfilling career” has gotten hot.

To be clear, GYPSYs want economic prosperity just like their parents did—they just also want to be fulfilled by their career in a way their parents didn’t think about as much.

But something else is happening too. While the career goals of Gen Y as a whole have become much more particular and ambitious, Lucy has been given a second message throughout her childhood as well:

This would probably be a good time to bring in our second fact about GYPSYs:

GYPSYs Are Delusional

”Sure,“ Lucy has been taught, ”everyone will go and get themselves some fulfilling career, but I am unusually wonderful and as such, my career and life path will stand out amongst the crowd.“ So on top of the generation as a whole having the bold goal of a flowery career lawn, each individual GYPSY thinks that he or she is destined for something even better—

A shiny unicorn on top of the flowery lawn.

So why is this delusional? Because this is what all GYPSYs think, which defies the definition of special:

SPECIAL: better, greater, or otherwise different from what is usual.

According to this definition, most people are not special—otherwise “special” wouldn’t mean anything.

Even right now, the GYPSYs reading this are thinking, “Good point…but I actually am one of the few special ones“—and this is the problem.

A second GYPSY delusion comes into play once the GYPSY enters the job market. While Lucy’s parents’ expectation was that many years of hard work would eventually lead to a great career, Lucy considers a great career an obvious given for someone as exceptional as she, and for her it’s just a matter of time and choosing which way to go. Her pre-workforce expectations look something like this:

Unfortunately, the funny thing about the world is that it turns out to not be that easy of a place, and the weird thing about careers is that they’re actually quite hard. Great careers take years of blood, sweat and tears to build—even the ones with no flowers or unicorns on them—and even the most successful people are rarely doing anything that great in their early or mid-20s.

But GYPSYs aren’t about to just accept that.

Paul Harvey, a University of New Hampshire professor and GYPSY expert, has researched this, finding that Gen Y has ”unrealistic expectations and a strong resistance toward accepting negative feedback,” and “an inflated view of oneself.” He says that ”a great source of frustration for people with a strong sense of entitlement is unmet expectations. They often feel entitled to a level of respect and rewards that aren’t in line with their actual ability and effort levels, and so they might not get the level of respect and rewards they are expecting.“

For those hiring members of Gen Y, Harvey suggests asking the interview question, ”Do you feel you are generally superior to your coworkers/classmates/etc., and if so, why?“ He says that “if the candidate answers yes to the first part but struggles with the ‘why,’ there may be an entitlement issue. This is because entitlement perceptions are often based on an unfounded sense of superiority and deservingness. They’ve been led to believe, perhaps through overzealous self-esteem building exercises in their youth, that they are somehow special but often lack any real justification for this belief.”

And since the real world has the nerve to consider merit a factor, a few years out of college Lucy finds herself here:

Lucy’s extreme ambition, coupled with the arrogance that comes along with being a bit deluded about one’s own self-worth, has left her with huge expectations for even the early years out of college. And her reality pales in comparison to those expectations, leaving her ”reality — expectations” happy score coming out at a negative.

And it gets even worse. On top of all this, GYPSYs have an extra problem that applies to their whole generation:

GYPSYs Are Taunted.

Sure, some people from Lucy’s parents’ high school or college classes ended up more successful than her parents did. And while they may have heard about some of it from time to time through the grapevine, for the most part they didn’t really know what was going on in too many other peoples’ careers.

Lucy, on the other hand, finds herself constantly taunted by a modern phenomenon: Facebook Image Crafting.

Social media creates a world for Lucy where A) what everyone else is doing is very out in the open, B) most people present an inflated version of their own existence, and C) the people who chime in the most about their careers are usually those whose careers (or relationships) are going the best, while struggling people tend not to broadcast their situation. This leaves Lucy feeling, incorrectly, like everyone else is doing really well, only adding to her misery:

So that’s why Lucy is unhappy, or at the least, feeling a bit frustrated and inadequate. In fact, she’s probably started off her career perfectly well, but to her, it feels very disappointing.

Here’s my advice for Lucy:

  1. Stay wildly ambitious. The current world is bubbling with opportunity for an ambitious person to find flowery, fulfilling success. The specific direction may be unclear, but it’ll work itself out—just dive in somewhere.
  2. Stop thinking that you’re special. The fact is, right now, you’re not special. You’re another completely inexperienced young person who doesn’t have all that much to offer yet. You can become special by working really hard for a long time.
  3. Ignore everyone else. Other people’s grass seeming greener is no new concept, but in today’s image crafting world, other people’s grass looks like a glorious meadow. The truth is that everyone else is just as indecisive, self-doubting, and frustrated as you are, and if you just do your thing, you’ll never have any reason to envy others.

Exploring Dubai


My trip to Dubai was a rather short and sweet one. Every time I had been in there in the past, it was with parents and the aim was to shop till they dropped, but this time I wanted to explore the city and delve into the culture and tradition ‘for a week’.

June probably wasn’t the best time to visit because of the heat, but I have to say the heat was overstated, because you’re almost never indoors and cars, buildings even restrooms are air conditioned (rather uncomfortably, it gave me a flu yikes!). So, here’s what to look out for when in Dubai:

 Malls’ Fest: Dubai Mall, Mall of Emirates, Wafi Mall

Dubai is known for its malls, and I can see why. The malls are the biggest in the world and they have a whole life inside of them. For example, the Dubai mall has shopping, aquarium, souks, access to the burj Khalifa and the dancing fountains (among other things). A day atleast is enough to just explore this one mall.

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Mall of Emirates too is an interesting one, with the ski Dubai access.

Wafi mall on the other hand, stands out because of its architecture but it’s really not the place you want to go for shopping as it is very compact and the retailers are very limited.

Souks

There’s souks everywhere. Inside Dubai mall, next to Dubai mall, in old Dubai city, next to Wafi mall, inside Madinat-e-Jumeriah etc. So, you must experience these souks. While, they are ridiculously priced, they’re one of their kinds.

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Sightseeing: Madinat e Jumeriah, Palm Islands

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Jumeriah Beach Resort (JBR) Walk

JBR Walk is a street right opposite the beach where you ll find some great places to eat and relax.

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Fine Dining: Little Bangkok, Minato

Food in Dubai is AMAZING! By that I am not only referring to the local food, which too is great but also the international cuisines. Ones I got a chance to go to are Little Bangkok where the food is on point and the drinks are just exceptional.

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Another great restaurant I am recommending is Minato at Radisson Blu in Deira city. It’s Japanese buffet and live station for Tepinyaki was the best Japanese food I have had in a long time.

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Waterpark: Wild Wadi

Given the heat, it’s obvious why a visit to the waterpark makes sense. The water is regulated at a cooler temperature and the idea of waterparks is more to have fun and relax and less for the thrill of it. While we ended up going to the Wild Wadi, I hear Aquaventure is quite good too.

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Desert Safari

This is probably my favourite experience from the trip. We had ‘Arabian Nights’ arrange the day for us. Where we were picked up from our accommodation and driven into a desert. We were then taken for dune bashing (a very thrilling experience, if it’s your first time!) and later at the camp we were welcomed by camels and the option to try sandboarding. At the camp there was also local cuisine, shisha, henna tattoos, drinks, tanoora dance performance and belly dancers. Later in the evening we were driven back to our place on the highway.

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Burj Khalifaa – at the top

If you’re in Dubai, this is one thing you must do, for the views. There really is not much else to it, just the views of the city and an exceptionally fast elevator ride.

If you have more time, you can also grab a meal at ‘at.mosphere’. A restaurant built on the 122nd floor of Burj Khalifa.

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Dubai Nightlife: Boudoir

Dubai clubs and bars are not only known for their atmosphere and music, but also the grand architecture and service. I ended up going to Boudoir, for a night filled with music and fun, but the indoor permission to smoke was a huge turnoff for me.

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Things I wish I had time for: Dubai cruise, sky diving, water sports

Soul mates: Make them or meet them?


In religion, in life, in love – we are taught that we are created with a soul mate out there and we spend years building ourselves, preparing us for when we can finally meet them and make a life together but I am starting to question what this ‘soul mate story’ means anymore.

Is it that we make a soul mate? Or are we just in our architecture a perfect fit? And if it were the later, why is it that all successful relationship are based on some sort of compromise, tolerance etc – and that stands true for every relationships, friendship, family and so on. We are not all the same, not even children in the same family, so it would only be fair to acknowledge that, cherish the similarities, respect the differences and find what makes people great together.

But here’s what I am think thinking…. Do we make soul mates or meet them?

Exploring Skardu, Pakistan


Earlier this morning, in a conversation with my family about all the places we’d been to and explored in our lives, it dawned on me how much of our country we left unexplored. While there are places we’ve been to, there’s so much more out there.  So, in that spirit, I thought I’d document my trip to Skardu, a few years ago. It is probably the most memorable trip I have taken in Pakistan.

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We started our trip by reaching the Skardu airport, which is located between the hills in a valley, which makes the approach of the flight, not the most straight forward one. From there, we made our way to the Shangrila.

Shangrila Resort

We had to travel through Balististan to get from Skardu to Shangrila resort. Baltistan is relatively urbanised with proper roads and shops, which means you can shop for some ethnic garnets, rubies and pashmina along the way but you’d find most other places don’t have the best roads and drive is a rather adventurous one. Having said that, it’s nothing new for the drivers there; so there’s not much to worry about.

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Expect driving from over lakes and along the cliffs. It’s the closest you get to heaven in this world. At Shangrila resort you can enjoy a nice meal in a hut surrounded by water (I don’t remember the food being very exceptional though), in a valley between the mountains. Many people also choose to stay there for a few days.

Upper Kachura

Our next stop was Upper Kachura, where there are more lakes and nature waiting to be explored. The best thing about the place is that not many people come this far, so it is impeccably calm. Here at Upper Kachura, I saw the most beautiful lake in my life. The only comparison I could make with that water is of a mirror. Given the bitter cold weather (and the water) I didn’t dare take a swim, but the cold didn’t keep my father and brother from taking a dip. It’s a swim they will remember for life.

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In this area, they say the fruit grows itself, they don’t have to plant seeds or irrigate the area. So, it is not a surprise that no one will stop you from just picking an apple, pear or apricot from the trees and enjoying the most juicy and sweet fruit ever. There’s lots of amazing dry fruit you could buy too.

Shigar Fort

A little drive away from Skardu, is the Shigar Fort. This was build back in the 17th century and has been restored and well-kept, thankfully. They have also converted some of the rooms into residences, where you could hire the room to experience royal life back in the days.

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Satpara Dam

On our last few days in Skardu, we paid a visit to the Satpara dam, which was still under construction as that time. I am not quite sure what the situation is like anymore. But it was quite a drive and view.

By the end of the trip, we all had experienced nature like we had never before. But this only reminds of all the amazing places I haven’t explored yet, including Kaghan, Naran, Nanga Parbat, Kashmir – Perhaps, they should be next on my list?!