For years I have idealized the life of having it all, having done it all and striking the right balance between ‘it all’. And while, some difficult decisions in the recent times made me wonder if this is even possible (you’re always missing out on one thing or the other and the bigger decisions you make, the bigger opportunity costs you undertake), but the article by Amy Westervelt made me think if I had been over-glorifying the idea of having it all. Is that even a realistic, or a desirable life to aim for?
‘Here’s the truth: You want to have a career and kids? You totally can, but both will suffer. You will never feel like you are devoting enough time to either. You will never feel like you are good enough at either. You will always be choosing between things that need your attention, and you will almost never choose yourself.
Let’s redefine “having it all,” or better yet let each woman define for herself what the best version of her life might look like.” And make it really completely okay for people (women or men) to make the choice to life their lives a certain way; have a thriving career without being questioned about having kids or devoting years to bringing up a family without the question of wasting ones’ potential or to prioritize whatever makes you tick!