I might be understating when talking about how very often people think they’re overburdened in life: Too much work to do? Too many things to figure out? Too many worries? Dilemmas? Choices? Complains…?
But there’s an opposing dimension to this existent as well. What happens when too many good things happen to us? Does that worry us or should that worry us?
The very first thing we need to accomplish in order to realise that the good is ‘too much’ is the realisation itself. That is not necessarily something to be avoided or something that can possibly be avoided. Our thresholds for how much of good we can take at once are set at a very early stage in childhood, says Hendricks, the author of Big Leap. And on the lighter side, realising and accepting that you’re blessed can also makes thing wee bit better, given you approach them correctly. Followed by rewarding moments of coursework submissions and some satisfying phone calls with friends, I found myself going through this situation myself, being hit by one realisation over another. I was overwhelmed thinking just how many good things are coming along one after another.
But how do you deal with a situation like this? Barbara Stanny points out how many of us might react to such circumstances, by committing self sabotage. She points out that each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy and the minute we exceed that setting by making more money, experiencing more love, drawing more positive attention to yourself, you trip your upper limit switch. We react to these fluctuations in our thermostat by over reacting or even by self sabotaging.
Here’s another way of how one should rightly deal with these fluctuations. You understand that there is an imbalance that must be settled within yourself and a very constructive way of striking this balance is to give in more. When you get too much reward you might freak out by an overwhelming response, but then you render more of what you have to give: effort, thankfulness or gratitude, which in turn helps you not only to overcome the excessive-upbeat-syndrome but also to help you stay positive. This way there will be no need to avoid occurrence of self sabotage because you’d be building more wellness for the times to come, while embracing your achievements, being thankful for them and settling the balance within alongside.